Word Of Encouragement To Start The Day (Monday 02/01/10)

Today’s Devotional Written By A Brave Young Woman Tasked With Presenting The Hard Issues: Tracy Koweh

Blood is Thicker than Water

The Family Fool

Proverbs 26:11 (Amplified Bible)

¹¹As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool returns to his folly.

Today’s message in the music comes from the Stylistics’ song “Make Up to Break Up.” The chorus of the songs says, “Make up to break up, that’s all we do. First you love me, then you hate me. That’s a game for fools.” The content of the song is about the functioning and dysfunction of a relationship between a man and woman, but the intent of the blog is to look at the relationship between a mother and her child.

Webster defines a mother as 1. A female parent 2. An old or elderly woman 3. Maternal tenderness or affection and 4. Something that is an extreme or ultimate example of its kind. These definitions alone left me puzzled; where was the definition that states "who gives life, or one who endures childbirth?" I believe that the reason those definitions don’t appear in the dictionary is because the act of getting pregnant, carrying a child or giving birth are not the true qualifications of being a mother. If that were true, women that adopt or who use surrogates to have children would be disqualified.

When God first gave me this assignment I knew this was going to be the hardest topic for me to write. I was telling some friends the other day, that a person can call a father almost any name in the book( if the situation warrants) and its acceptable, but to speak against a “mother” is one of the biggest taboos a person can do. How can you not sing anything but praises for the one who gave you life?……then God told me that no human being in this world can give anybody or anything life but Him.

I remember when I was in a physically abusive relationship and my friends kept asking why I wouldn’t leave and why I kept going back. They knew as well as I did, that this destructive lifestyle I was living would eventually kill me emotionally, spiritually and possibly even physically. For me fear played a part in my decision to stay, but more importantly in my case it was the spirit of familiarity and ignorance that ultimately held me captive. Now looking back I see I was “a fool in love.” I allowed the love I had for this man to allow me to make excuses for him and by these means, it let him get away with treating me less than God ordained.

So should it be any different if that person is your “mother” (or any family member you need to fill in your gap with)? The fact God blessed them with the privilege to be used as a vessel to bring you into this world, doesn’t give them the right to misuse their power or the role that they play in your life. A mother is suppose to be a child’s first line of defense against the world and the first example of love, but in a lot of cases this is not what we are finding or what is true. Women are using children as pawns to get things from men, to fulfill their lost dreams, to get more from the system and in some cases to keep a man. God is extremely displeased and upset with some “mothers” right now, especially those claiming to be in His kingdom.

God never intended for us to be abused by any person, and He is getting ready to bless some of us with foster parents that are within the kingdom. God does not intend for you to stay connected to any person who will destroy you in any dimension of your being, because it will eventually destroy the purpose He has placed in your life. God says some of us need to cut off and leave alone some of these relationships, until He brings deliverance and healing. Some times we keep going back because we think things will get better, or that if we love a little more or try a little harder that change will come. But some mountains only God can move. Don’t be a fool one more day, turn it over to God and rest in His true unconditional love.