Words Of Encouragement To Start The Day (Thursday 07/14/2011)

The Victimizering Victim

2 Corinthians 11:19-21 Amplified Bible (AMP)

¹⁹For you readily and gladly bear with the foolish, since you are so smart and wise yourselves! ²⁰For you endure it if a man assumes control of your souls and makes slaves of you, or devours [your substance, spends your money] and preys upon you, or deceives and takes advantage of you, or is arrogant and puts on airs, or strikes you in the face. ²¹To my discredit, I must say, we have shown ourselves too weak [for you to show such tolerance of us and for us to do strong, courageous things like that to you]! But in whatever any person is bold and dares [to boast]--mind you, I am speaking in this foolish (witless) way--I also am bold and dare [to boast].

            It is a known psychological fact that when you have become a victim of abuse your chances of becoming an abuser are almost inevitable unless you get help to deal with the trauma and the mental and emotional scarring that comes along with it.  Child molesters, abusers, violent crime offenders and even some rapist have been abused in some way themselves.  I have watched people in and out of my life adapt the same patterns, whether they were abused emotional, mentally, spiritually or physically the pattern still remains.  I have also been victimized by people who fall into these particular categories, because they have been in refusal to get the help necessary to be whole again, or to move passed the event.

            Have you ever meet or encountered an individual that every story they told you, someone was out to get them, doing them wrong or taking advantage of them?  No one ever looked good in those stories and they were always receiving the short end of the stick, or being mistreated?  Have you ever met a person where boundaries were hard for them and no person was off limits to talk about? Is this us? It is here that caution should come into play, because these are signs of a person who has been a victim and will eventual victimize. Especially, if  people within their lives begin to do things that they do not like or say things that they do not want to hear.  This cycle will often carry over in how we treat God as well.  He will become someone we run to when we are in need and when He doesn’t answer we can quickly turn on Him, turning our back on Him and talking about how He has forgotten us or abandon us, and using His name in vain.  Abusive tendencies do not just end with our earthly relationships, they carry over to our spiritual ones as well, and we have no respect for the order of the Kingdom of God and the people who are God’s set men and women.  We can become abusive, offended by the slightest little things and not even know it. When no subject matter or means to get at people in general and even people of God when they do not conform to our thinking and our way of doing things will not become off limits.  Reasoning will become skewed by the victim’s mentality and we walk in fear, paranoia and we will react more often than naught in offense, anger and mistrust.  We will use anger, manipulation and control to try to dictate every relationship in our lives to include our relationship with God.

            We need to understand that natural and spiritual are linked.  That what we have manifesting or what we have not dealt with in our natural can and will spill our into our spirit, and what we do not allow God to deal with and heal us from will continue to perpetuate in all areas of our lives. We will make the lives of those who encounter us on any level a living nightmare.  Our relationship with God will become one of convenience and one that will have many highs and lows and places where we find it easy to get what we can as long as God is doing what we want and then when He switches gears or requires something of us, we will cry foul and say He has forgotten us or claim He likes someone else better than He likes us.  We will turn our backs on Him in hopes that He will miss us and come after us and give us what we want.  But God wants us healed, whole and delivered, living a life that is free from the damage done to us, and the potential damage that can be done to others and in the way we live and conduct ourselves in relationship with Him and with other people. He wants us to be the victor, not the victim, He wants us the helper and the example not the victimizer and the abuser.  Let God into the deepest of your hurts and the darkest of your places to be healed today….Your life and the life of others may depend upon it.